the art of letting go.

the secret for letting go is to go with the flow. don't try to let go. instead, keep holding on. remember how much you love your partner, feel how much you want your partner, feel the gratitude for all the gifts your partner has given you, feel how much you wish you could bring back your partner.

by remembering your partner this way, you're grieving properly. this is how healing takes place. at first, you might feel the loss even more intensely. you may experience a variety of painful feelings: anger, sadness, fear and sorrow. feeling these different painful emotions is actually how we release an attachment. this pain is temporary.

eventually, after releasing an attachment, you may still feel some sorrow when you remember your partner. you will also feel the sweetness of your love and the strength of your spirit. when your heart is fully healed, remembering your partner is no longer painful; instead, your heart is filled with love and peace. this signals that you are ready to get involved again.